Hands

The girls did something really beautiful last night. It was early evening and the end of a long day. It felt like all I did yesterday was housework and nurse babies (because all I did yesterday was housework and nurse babies). Anyway, I was home alone, bone tired and kind of staring into space while tandem feeding. Then, I looked down and noticed that they were holding hands. They must have reached out for each other when I wasn't looking. Their little arms were stretched across the pillow and their hands were intertwined. It was such a cool moment. It made me cry.

I've been waiting for them to find each other.

I must confess, that I've been a little disappointed with how oblivious they seem to each other's presence. I've been reading for so many months about the magical bond between twins. However, Lily can be screaming right in Elsa's ear, and Elsa doesn't even blink. (and vice versa). It was really amazing to see them interact last night.

Apparently, twins don't usually notice each other right from the start. This is amazing to me considering they spent nine months in such close quarters. My theory is that you don't notice things that are always there. It would be like noticing your own breathing. We asked several experienced parents about this at the Twin Club Halloween last weekend. It seemed that most of their twins didn't really start interacting, playing together etc until they are several months old. They say at that point having twins got a lot easier because they become each others constant companion and playmate.

Still, I know they are aware of each other at some level, especially at night. They don't sleep well without having their heads pressed together in the dark. They really seem to provide comfort to each other.